When two people move in together, whether it be as roommates or as partners, there are boundaries that always need to be set. One of those boundaries rears its head early on when these two separate and distinct individuals attempt to merge their belongings under one roof. This is where one usually finds that they cannot stand the lamp that the other loves or that the over-stuffed couch the other inherited from their mom is not only an eye-sore, but is uncomfortable.
You most certainly should approach these types of differences with as delicate an approach as you can since most people are emotional attached to a good amount of their possessions.
I feel that when you move in together it is best to start with the bare bone necessities, rather than trying to stuff all of your belongings in together and sort through them in your new location. If you can assess the differences prior to moving in together, you will be able to thin your belongings into a manageable lot for one home.
Here is a good place to suggest that it would be a good idea if each of you rent a separate storage unit for your “excess belongings.” This serves to immediately cut down on disagreements about questionable décor and gives you time to “ease the old recliner into the den” at a later date.
Bare-bone necessities are your must-haves in order have a comfortable home. Couch, bed, dining table and chairs. In other words, a place to relax, a place to eat, and a place to sleep. The rest can be determined at future time.
The joy of moving in together is that you can learn to like new things. It may turn out that the two of you combined may find that a dining table isn’t necessary for your lifestyle. You may want to use a coffee table to eat at while watching a television show. There are even coffee tables that convert to a table by lifting the top up to eating level so you don’t have to slouch over. My point here is that you can make moving in together the new adventure that it should be by expanding on your own personal taste or learning to love other’s taste at the same time.
This doesn’t not do away with your own favorite items. The newly merged household should reflect the personality of both parties. Both parties should likewise learn to be tolerant and not complain about the other’s choices once the boundaries have been set. This is where the motto, “Live and Let Live” comes in handy.
In the end, this process should also eliminate unnecessary items. There will inevitably be two of many things: two toasters, two microwaves, two sets of dishes, etc. After discarding or else storing all the doubles, you will have room to expand on your décor choices together henceforth as you grow together in your new home.
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